Reward with your attention

The number one thing I have learned raising dogs and children is that if you want to see more of something, reward it with your attention and appreciation.

It works with most people I interact with, and it seems to work with all relationships. Supervisors to students, and strangers to friends.

Here is the crazy part… if you want to see less of something, don’t punish it, ignore it.

Attention is a reward, so punishment is a kind of reward, and a punished action is repeated.